How to deal with a rebellious wife

A submissive wife empowers her man with her support to move ahead swiftly in leading his family.

With the blurring of traditional roles of provider and nurture occurring due to societal upheavals like the economic realities of two-income homes or the wife earning more or being the sole breadwinner, it becomes complex to determine who should wear the pants at home.

Today, many women are coming to marriage without a healthy understanding of submission and hence view it disparagingly as a curse word or worse, a form of subjugation.

Here are some of the ways you can deal with an unsubmissive wife:

1. Get her an older woman for mentorship

A fellow woman who is older and wiser will be able to sit her down and show her how her bitching will not help anyone in the long run. Any girl can get pregnant without effort but being a wife calls for maturity and hard work. Loving one’s husband doesn’t come naturally but a young woman can be taught and grow to be a loving and submissive wife.

Older women, likewise, are to be reverent in their behavior, not slanderers or addicted to much wine, but teachers of good. In this way, they can train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, managers of their households, kind, and subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be discredited (Titus 2:3-5).

2. Set boundaries

It’s important to talk and set boundaries on what is appropriate behavior and conduct in the marriage. Make master schedules on what everyone is doing 24/7. This gives way to occasional reviews to check progress and see if any of the two is meeting expectations and working to make the union work. There should be room for consequences and discipline. These days, many ladies feel that as adults, nobody should tell them what to do. This is wrong because we all need discipline in our lives.

3. Pray for her

Prayers for a spouse are a direct line to God. Nothing is as powerful as the prayers of a loved one. It helps to see a rebellious wife, not as an enemy but a child of God suffering from a troubled past or dealing with strongholds and spiritual bondage. The husband is supposed to be patient with her, love her unconditionally, and make supplication for her. The Holy Spirit will break the spirit of a contentious woman faster than any blows, threats, or manipulation.

Kindly note that beating or caning your spouse is Gender-Based Violence (GBV). GBV is a crime and we strongly stand against any form of GBV meted on either gender.